Yes, I’m posting another entry dedicated to my ex husband. He says he monitors everything I do online, and since he doesn’t really respond to emails and I refuse to speak to him on the phone, this is probably the only way to be sure he gets my message. Right? :)

So, Dear ex:

“I’m working on it” does not put food on the table for your children. It doesn’t buy them new shoes when their old ones are too small or falling apart. It doesn’t help pay the utilities or put a roof over their head. So, when you are yet again late on child support, or choosing not to send child support, or whatever the problem is over there, saying “I’m working on it” is probably the lamest excuse I’ve ever heard.

Not to mention you’re only hurting your children.

Not me.

I’m an adult. I can handle it. But your children know you are supposed to send support EVERY MONTH. They know that divorced parents are supposed to both provide for their children. They see that you do not. It’s not because I’ve told them either, they see it. They have learned that when you have a responsibility, you stick to it. When you are supposed to do something, you do it. When you’re ordered to do something, you get it done. They ask for different things during the month and I’m honest with them: “When child support comes in, we can do that.”

Times are tough right now though, right?

After all, I don’t have a job right now because of the economy, yet I manage to pinch and scrimp and beg and borrow to get them everything they need. I’ve been creative and have come up with money for “extras” and the kids have too. Your daughter raised almost $200 in less than 24 hours so she could go to basketball camp.

Yet “you’re working on it” when you apparently live in a large home, drive a nice car, work with your wife from home and have been able to purchase a piano during the same time that you couldn’t send child support or have the kids come home for summer break like they are *supposed to.* What are you doing to make sure your children get the money they deserve every month, not every other month or some months but not others?

When they are older, do you think they are going to remember you for the sacrifices you’ve made for them, or that you “were working on it” when they couldn’t have the things they needed growing up?

I already know the answer to that question when I ask myself.